Why my marriage started off chaotic, problematic – Etim Effiong
Nollywood actor Daniel Etim-Effiong candidly shared the turbulent beginnings of his marriage to his wife, Toyosi.
In a recent interview, he opened up about the challenges of adapting to his wife’s assertive personality, which initially made him feel inadequate in his role as a husband.
I’m not used to people having a say… Being with a wife that was so assertive was chaotic for me. I felt I was losing my grip on the marriage. I felt I wasn’t being a man or a husband, and it messed with my mind,” he said.
Etim-Effiong also acknowledged that his interactions with numerous women and a lack of clear boundaries added to the conflicts in his marriage.
He admitted struggling with inappropriate calls and relationships during the early days of his union but noted that learning to set boundaries eventually brought clarity and stability.
“Of course there were issues with women all around me and I didn’t know how to set boundaries at the time as well so I was just like all over the place.
“It was later I started to learn about boundaries that I actually need to draw the line and say it’s not okay that you can call me at funky hours of the night, she might be your friend but it’s not okay, you’re married now, things like that for example. So the issues went on and on, we’d quarrel,” he added.
