Let’s be very clear, your shit does stink. Yes, you read that correctly. I don’t care what you say or what you convey to others, your shit does stink, boo, and you may be making mistakes in your relationship that may drive your mate away.
Now that you have gotten over the initial shock of knowing that you aren’t perfect, let’s also be clear about a something…none of us are perfect.
We make mistakes, we do and say the wrong things and at times, those mistakes carry over into our relationships and we don’t even realize what we are doing.
Often times, when our relationships are new, we learn from those mistakes because we are getting to know one another.
However, the problem that comes from making mistakes is when we don’t learn from the mistakes that we make in our relationships and those mistakes become a way of life. But what happens when you don’t know that you are making mistakes that could be driving your mate away?
Because I’ve made some of these mistakes before and I don’t want you to follow down the same path that I did, here are some mistakes that you may be making that will drive your mate away.
Having A Closed Mouth
Have you ever heard the saying, “Closed mouths don’t get feed?” That saying holds true in relationships…Big Time!
You can not be afraid to speak up when you aren’t cool with something. If there is something that your partner is or is not doing that makes you unhappy or that you want them to start doing, you have to speak up.
How will the behavior change if you don’t say anything? Besides, keeping those feeling locked inside will only make things harder later because you will start to resent your mate and that can only lead to a big blowup later.
By speaking up, you’re basically saying, “I care,” and if they care about you, too, then they’ll appreciate you making the effort to work on the relationship .
Not Keeping Your Word
Your word is your bond. There is nothing that makes someone not trust like when you don’t keep to your words. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. There is no other way around it.
Once your partner can’t depend on your word, he or she will stop depending on you.
Never Saying I’m Sorry
If you mess up, say it! You have to be able to apologize when you make a mistake and just don’t give a punk ass, “ sorry,” to end an argument.
Make sure that when you apologize that it is heartfelt and that you are sure you know what you are apologizing for. Remember, you can’t go through a relationship not owning up to your mistakes.
It goes back to what I said in the beginning, “your shit does stink.” If you act like it doesn’t, you could be saying bye to your boo before you know it.
Having An “It’s All About “Me” Attitude
If you are in a relationship and have an “It’s all about me” attitude , you will drive your mate away and send them running for the hills sooner than later.
Being Negative…All The Time
Who wants to be with someone who is always negative about every…damn…thing? Ummm…no one!! If you are always negative about everything, it will have a negative effect on your relationship. Everything can’t be bad, there has to be something positive in your life…find it!
